Monday, August 25, 2008

Kashmir in despair

The enchanting slogans rocking the whole state,for about two months now;has brought normal life to a halt.Exams post phoned,business affected,office work pending,innocent killed-overall disturbance.We have landed in a situation where we are clueless about our future.We Kashmiris have been suffering this for almost from the beginning.We have been demanding freedom since past 20 years but no one is paying heeds.We aren't demanding separation from our motherland-INDIA but freedom from all the harassment we are suffering & have suffered.We want dignity,respect,equality and that's why we are shouting,crying our heart out;may be this time we get what we want.It's quite hilarious to see that Kashmir is a part of a country which celebrated its 62nd independence day just a few days back.What independence we have? We are looked down everywhere.Why only we belonging to the Muslim community get bullet for raising our voice,hanged for no fault of ours.Why is it so that in recent clashes we met death,got 303 but Ah!!! Hindus not even received d lathe.Why is Afzal Guru being hanged because firstly he is a Muslim and secondly a Kashmiri or vice verse.These are the questions which need to be answered not for me but for all of us-as to why are we suffering???

Tuesday, August 19, 2008

RECAP.................. Indian Kashmir land row boils

Police shot dead at least 29 people in Indian Kashmir as Muslim protests against what they termed an economic blockade by Hindus over a land row began to morph into independence calls, officials said.

Violence swept up the neighboring Hindu-dominated Jammu region as well, where two people were killed and several injured when thousands of Hindu and Muslim protesters clashed with each other and with police.

In Kashmir, at least 200 people, including 85 policemen, were hurt and 13 protesters killed in a dozen separate incidents of police firing a day after a separatist leader was killed by police while trying to lead Muslim traders into Pakistan.

Muslim protesters shouted slogans against the government as Kashmir's main separatist alliance, the All Parties Hurriyat (Freedom) Conference, buried senior leader Sheikh Aziz, among the four people killed by police as he led Monday's march.

"This is not protest against land transfer, in fact this is anger against India," Pakiza Dar, a college teacher, yelled.

"Down with security forces, we want freedom," others shouted.

The land row has sparked some of Kashmir's worst religious riots in recent years. At least 20 people have been killed and hundreds injured.

The dispute began after the Kashmir government promised to give forest land to the trust that runs Amarnath, a cave shrine visited by Hindu pilgrims. Many Muslims were enraged.

The government then backed down, angering many Hindus in Jammu and polarizing Indian Kashmir, which is split between the Muslim-majority Kashmir valley and the Hindu-dominated region around Jammu city.

The row has severely curbed trade between the two areas, and prompted Kashmir traders to try and sell their goods in neighboring Pakistan.

The protests have widened to become pro-independence rallies, some of the biggest since a separatist revolt against New Delhi broke out in the region 20 years ago.


On Tuesday, some 20,000 Muslims defied a curfew in Bandipora, about 60 km (40 miles) north of Srinagar, Kashmir's summer capital, to protest against Monday's killings.

Analysts said the protests had brought the focus back on Kashmir and endangered a sputtering 2004 peace process between India and Pakistan that had helped bring down violence.

"I see this will have a bad impact and considering that Pakistan is going through a bad turmoil now, the overall impact on the peace process will not be very positive," said C. Uday Bhaskar, a senior strategic analyst.

Experts said political groups were trying to gain mileage ahead of general elections next year, with the Hindu nationalist Bharatiya Janata Party, shepherding the Hindu cause in Jammu and separatists fuelling anti-India feelings in Kashmir.

India reacted angrily to a statement by Pakistan's Foreign Minister Shah Mehmood Qureshi, condemning "excessive and unwarranted force" in Kashmir.

"Such statements by leaders of a foreign country do not help the situation. Nor do they contribute to creating the atmosphere necessary for the dialogue process between India and Pakistan to move forward," India's foreign ministry spokesman said in a statement.

Indian authorities also denied there was any economic blockade and said lorries, guarded by policemen and soldiers, were plying the region's main 300-km (185 mile) highway, the only land link between Kashmir valley and the rest of India.

The Indian government said it was trying to find a solution through negotiations and help traders sell their goods across the border in Pakistan.

Monday, August 18, 2008

Khuda se mannat hai mer

Khuda se mannat hai meri..lauta de jannat woh meri..
Khuda se mannat hai meri..lauta de jannat woh meri..

woh aman.. woh chaman.. ka nazaara..
woh aman.. woh chaman.. ka nazaara..

Oh kudha yaa.. lauta de.. kashmir dobara
Oh kudha yaa.. lauta de.. kashmir dobara

Meri rooh ki tasveer mera kashmeeeeeer..

Oh kudha yaa.. lauta de.. kashmir dobara
Oh kudha yaa.. lauta de.. kashmir dobara

Chaaron Taraf to pehle… sukoon hi sukoon tha
Awaam ko watan se…. ishq ka junoon tha

ab yahaan katl hai.. ab vahan khoon hai..
meri aulad mere kashmir se… mehroom hai mehroom hai
mehroom hai mehroom hai

mera kashmir sawaara kyun… jab isko yun jadna tha
mera kashmir sawaara kyun… jab isko yun jadna tha
kushnumaan manzar… pe khanjar kyun chalaya
kushnumaan manzar… pe khanjar kyun chalaya
Oh kudha yaa.. lauta de kashmir dobara
Oh kudha yaa.. lauta de kashmir dobara
Meri rooh ki tasveer.. mera kashmeeeeeer..


Chaahe kafan ka joda.. mujko pehna de tu
mere bachhe ko woh jannat.. kashmir dekha de tu
woh mera gulistan… ban gaya shamshaan
Yahan maut ki behleez pe.. kadha hai har insaan
kadha hai har insaan

tamanna hai gujarish hai… oh… dard e dil ki khwaaish hai..
tamanna hai gujarish hai… dard e dil ki khwaaish hai..

Doobti kashti ko dila de tu kinara.. woh aman woh chaman ka nazaara

Oh kudha yaa.. lauta de.. kashmir dobara

Mera kashmir.. mera kashmir…
Mera kashmir.. mera kashmir…
Mera kashmir.. mera kashmir…

Movie Name: Keerthi Chakra (2006)
Singer: Kailash Kher
Music Director: Joshua Sridhar
Lyrics: Gireesh Puthenchery
Year: 2006
Producer: Choudary RB
Director: Major Ravi

Saturday, August 16, 2008

The brutality of troops in kashmir

The vote bank politics going on in Jammu and Kashmir has left every one in doubt about their future . The people are acting like puppets in hands of the politic leaders. The land issue didn’t have a better solution than this. We got our land back and that would also benefit the yatris. Then what is the basis for BJP to make it an issue. Why are we thinking of Jammu and Kashmir as separate provinces? They are the part of this jannat and I don’t think they would ever be stopped to use their own resources. The thing is land and it will be used for their benefit, although SASB should not be its sole owner. The leaders are safe but we are at risk; our future is at risk. We are being harassed;We are being killed...Tell me why do always innocent suffer????????
We can take a step forward and again unite. Let’s join hands and restore peace in the state.

coz UNITED WE RISE;DIVIDED WE FALL......Letz pray everything getz fine over here n the demands are fullfiled.
Allah sab shaheedun ko magfirat karein...Ameen

Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Online chatting ...is it allowed in islam

I am a Muslim girl. My question is, can I as a Muslim make friends through online chatting. I don’t exchange any personal contact details of any kind. The language used is a day to day one - no bad language. My friends include both males and females. Am I allowed to make such friends? Please support your answer with references from Qur’an and sunnah. (I don’t give my pictures either.)

You seem to be a keen chatter! Well, let me tell you that most modern inventions like mass media and means of mass communications including internet services are all double-edged weapons. You can get the most benefit and the worst harm out of them according to your intentions and the way you use them. TV for example, can be a major source of knowledge or a major source of moral degeneration, depending on what channel you have switched on! But to say that TV is completely objectionable or completely acceptable is still, not sensible talk.

The same applies to online chatting. I see that online chatting, especially with friends from different countries and nationalities is a wonderful method for people to know one another, which Allah made as one of the ultimate goals of creating man. He says:

O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other ...

Surah 49 Verse 13

It is a way of exchanging information and creating friendship among people. Who knows, may be you can avoid the expected war between India and your country through the Internet. This is by the simple chatting between the peoples of the two countries, rather than through a UN resolution!

I personally know some people, who made wonderful use of chatting with Western friends, as a successful way of correcting the bad image Islam got, after the 11th of September.

I also know of some young people, who are in daily contact, through chatting with our besieged people, in the Palestinian territory of Gaza and the West Bank. It helps them to offer their condolences and express their sympathy and solidarity. You can imagine how impressive it is for them to know that they are not alone in such circumstances after the whole world has let them down!

What I want to say is that there are a lot of good ideas by which we can turn this hobby of chatting into something useful. Yet there are precautions that I always warn my two daughters against when they chat or use the Internet. Even if the thing is good in itself, simply the excessive use of it, may mess up one's life. Balance in distributing time between all the activities of life is needed, even in acts of worshipping. I wish you could read Arabic to turn to the Arabic version of IslamOnline to read the valuable opinion recently given by Sheikh Yusuf Al Qaradawi, about the harm in the excessive use of things even when it is something halal.

When we come to the moral perils of chatting, I don't think I have much to say, because, as you mentioned, you have wide, open eyes on them. Still, there is one thing that I always warn my own daughters against, or whoever asks me similar questions. It is having a relationship between a girl and a young man, either through chatting or through any other means of communication. It should never lead them to a level of intimacy, which may lead them in turn to unwanted results.

In this context I remember a funny story, which I heard once. A girl started chatting business with a young man. They were both religious and were strict about the moral rules of their contact. Nevertheless, the frequent contacts lead them to the very “natural” consequence and a special feeling grew between them. When it came to the serious talk of marriage, she discovered - as they have never met - that he was much younger than her and that every thing in his life made him absolutely the wrong person for her! Now she is asking for help after it became really heart-breaking for her to break up the relationship.

Thus, chatters should be careful about who they chat with, and how, when and why they chat, and try their best to make a good correct niyah(intention) for their chatting. It should either be for cultural or for religious benefit, in order to have a double gain: enjoyment in this life and reward in the life to come.

Monday, August 11, 2008

Premarital Relationships — Why Not?

Premarital relationships—why not? How would you answer this question? As a young Muslim, do you feel this question is relevant to you at all? Have you discussed it with your friends? Is it a question you have thought about? Do you understand why not?

If you are uncertain about how you would answer this question, don't worry. Perhaps the most misunderstood of all human relationships is the premarital relationship between young men and women, especially among those who are just coming of age and coming to terms with their sexuality. The dominant understanding is that premarital relationships should be allowed and even encouraged. The most common arguments are that premarital relationships help to socialize young people to deal with one another, and that they help those who are looking to get married to have up close and personal, intimate knowledge of their potential spouse.

Do you agree with these two arguments? Do they reflect your way of thinking? The latter argument couldn't be further from the truth. Learning to socialize with the opposite sex, however, is a commendable personal goal, but it cannot be left to chance and definitely need not involve having an intimate, physical relationship with a member of the opposite sex.

Are Islamic Teachings Old-Fashioned?

Depending on your upbringing, who your friends are, and your exposure to television shows and movies, you might have been socialized to believe that premarital relationships are glamorous, filled with romantic overtures, and a natural expression of a man's attraction towards a woman. In fact, some young Muslims are so convinced that premarital relationships are the norm rather than the exception that, when told "dating is haram [forbidden]," they respond by saying, "Why is Islam so backward? Why can't we just get with the times and realize that today, premarital relationships are ok because not everyone is thinking about sex all the time."

Is that right? And so how would you propose going about helping those young people who are inclined to think about sex some or most of the time and not, as you say, all of the time. What shall we tell them?

Even the premise that the Islamic prohibition on premarital relationships is rooted solely in the notion that people think about sex all the time is false. There is no outright prohibition of friendship between men and women and, yes, those friendships can also be warm, caring, and long lasting. The important question is, how are these men and women related to one another? In Islam, men and women who are ineligible to get married to one another, who are each other's mahrams, that is, are able to have very powerful, long lasting, warm and caring, platonic relationships. It is helpful to review who these people are. In Surat An-Nur, after telling the believing men to lower their gaze, Allah Almighty continues in the next verse:

[And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O ye Believers! turn ye all together towards Allah, that ye may attain Bliss.](An-Nur 24:31)

So, yes, in principle, there is no problem with men and women being friends, as long as the men are in any of the categories described above in Surah An-Nur, verse 31. For those men who are non-mahrams, that is, eligible to be married, the risk is always there that one or the other will become vulnerable and will incline towards the other outside of the framework of a marital contract.

Think about it. If you have come of age recently, you know that with the onset of puberty you experienced distinct and profound changes in your body. Among those changes were an increased awareness of your own sexuality and the occurrence of 'wet dreams,' or nocturnal emissions. With hormones raging and very new and intense feelings of sexual stimulation, sometimes brought on by the least provocation, it is possible that a young person will become preoccupied with thinking about sex, even if he or she takes no action to actually attempt to relieve his or her sexual tension.

The fact of the matter is, sexual desires become pronounced and you might have experience mixed emotions, including confusion, guilt, and outright shame. Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) understood human development well. In a teaching narrated to us by `Abdullah, (may Allah be pleased with him), the Prophet admonished young people thus,

"O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e., his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power." (Sahih Al-Bukhari, Book #62, Hadith #4)

Timeless Islamic Teachings

We often end up falling into the trap of believing that maybe Islamic teachings are outdated and old-fashioned. On the contrary, Muslims accept the Qur'an and the teachings of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) as comprehensive, universal, and timeless. Therefore, no matter where or during what time period in human history, premarital relationships have and will be forbidden because of the detrimental impact on the people involved as well as on society in general.Allah Most High ordains upon us a lifestyle according to which human life is sacred and which considers righteous conduct, mutual respect, and chaste and dignified relations to be the norm rather than the exception. We read in the Qur'an

[O Prophet! When believing women come to thee to take the oath of fealty to thee, that they will not associate in worship any other thing whatever with Allah, that they will not steal, that they will not commit adultery (or fornication), that they will not kill their children, that they will not utter slander, intentionally forging falsehood, and that they will not disobey thee in any just matter,- then do thou receive their fealty, and pray to Allah for the forgiveness (of their sins): for Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.] (Al-Mumtahanah 60:12)

In the context of social relations, Allah Most High has ordered men and women who wish to establish an intimate and physical relationship to do so by signing a contract, to bind each of them to certain rights and responsibilities towards the other. The marital relationships is characterized therefore as a "solemn covenant," (An-Nisaa' 4:21). Contrast a "solemn covenant," to having no contract and no covenant whatsoever. In a premarital relationship there is no contract. There might be some commitment but it is not stipulated by any conditions: both the man and the woman can walk away from the relationship without any fear of breaching a contract, because there is none.

You must know how painful it is for young people to "break up" or "break off" or "get dumped," and how painful it is for them to be "in love" with a boy one day only to find him with another girl the next. In the most tragic cases, young women have lost their virginity to young men who spoke so passionately about love and future marriage, but then one day just stopped calling, or fell instantly out of love.

To the extent that men and women will, out of fear of Allah and out of a desire to please Allah, uphold their contractual obligations, marital relationships are strong, whereas without any contractual obligations and stipulations, both the man and the woman are at risk, as noted above. Allah Most High desires that we live chaste lives and therefore the Islamic outlook is that we shouldn't even go near, come close to, or approach the possibility of becoming vulnerable towards a man or a woman's attraction, unless we are serious and committed enough to sign a marriage contract and take on the rights and responsibilities associated with it. Allah warns in the Qur'an,

(And come not near unto adultery. Lo! it is an abomination and an evil way.] (Al-Israa' 17:32)

Painful Consequences

While not all premarital relationships are characterized by intimate, physical relations, there are clearly painful consequences for both the boy and the girl who are involved. Dr. Shahid Athar notes in an article entitled, "Sex Education for Muslim Youth and Their Parents" that there are "hazards" for young people engaging in sexual relations prematurely. He states, "The health hazards of early sex include sexual trauma, increase in the incidence of cervical cancer, sexually transmitted diseases, and teenage pregnancy."

It is important to note in this instance that Islamic teachings are often preventive in nature so "chances" that a person may become vulnerable to the temptation of one sin or another are excluded. The preventive nature of the teachings is most obvious when we consider the Islamic prohibition against gambling and the consumption of intoxicants. A person might not become addicted to drugs or alcohol by just having a single drink, but Allah our Creator, out of His mercy for us, has prohibited outright all intoxicants and thus He saves us from the risk that we will ever become addicted.

Closing Thoughts

Premarital relationships are forbidden in Islam. Interaction between men and women is not forbidden, provided that it is conducted according to certain guidelines.

Let us not be tempted to say, "Well, I have no problems with dealing with women as very close friends." While some men and women might be able to have platonic relationships, there is no guarantee that what starts off as simple friendship eventually leads to some and then strong attraction. Many people have looked back and regretted that they were not strong enough to resist the temptation to become attracted or to be alone with their friend. It is understood that in contemporary society, men and women mix in the context of work or study. However, the burden is upon the one who is mingling with the opposite sex to stay within the bounds of proper etiquette.

Islam allows great flexibility in the realm of conduct as long as the conduct itself is guided by the Qur'an and the teachings of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him). If the contact is purposeful, limited, and public, then there is less risk that either the man or the woman involved will become vulnerable to temptation. None of us can predict with certainty that we will be able to control our emotions and desires.

Almighty Allah knows who among us would be able to handle working and studying with members of the opposite sex. However, Allah in His infinite wisdom also knows that all of us are prone to forget and therefore, to protect us all, there are clear guidelines as to when and how and for what purposes we should interact with the opposite sex.

The beloved Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) once counseled a man who sought his permission to commit fornication. In a most humane and dignified manner, the Prophet asked the young man if he would want another man to commit such an act with his mother or sister. In this way the Prophet was able to redirect the young man's attention from trying to satisfy his sexual desires to thinking about the honor and the respect with which he would want his own sister and mother to be treated by other men. Overall, in placing the act of fornication in a more personal and familial context, the Prophet helped this young man to see the detrimental impact that fornication and other such sins have on society at large.

Friday, August 1, 2008

Do Ghosts Exist?Science tells us that nothing in nature, not even the tiniest particle, can disappear without a trace. Think about that for a moment.

Yes, ghosts exist! But how do we know that ghosts exist? People have been asking, "Do ghosts really exist?" for ages.

Just what are ghosts? How does science explain the phenomenon of ghosts? Why do ghosts appear? And how?

There are a great many books on ghosts. But few books explain the physics of ghosts or say anything on how ghosts interact with the physical world. Just how do we account scientifically for the phenomenon?

Recent discoveries in quantum physics (the study of the physics of sub-atomic particles) and in cosmology (the branch of astronomy and astrophysics that deals with the universe taken as a whole) shed much light on how mind interacts with the universe. These discoveries compel acceptance of the idea that there is far more than just one universe and that we constantly interact with many of these "hidden" universes.

Unfortunately, most books on quantum cosmology are written in language that an ordinary intelligent person cannot understand. Moreover, many if not most scientists are in a state of denial of anything supernatural. They are blind to the paranormal and simply cannot see the obvious logical conclusions of their own discoveries.

What is needed is a source that explains in understandable, non-mathematical terms the relationship between mind and matter––how spirit and mind interact with the physical world.

Ghosts want to be noticed.

Ghosts have no sense of passing time.

Often, they do not know that they are dead.

Sometimes they exist in a state of confusion, perhaps like being stuck in a dream.

Ghosts can smell things and love the smell of lemons.

Ghosts have a sense of humor and love to hear humans laugh.

Sometimes ghosts get bored with their surroundings

Most ghosts are happy, but some still cling to an emotional pain.

They can appear to the living in dreams.

They can leave behind certain scents, such as perfume.

They can make sounds that are audible.

They use their energies and ours to move things.

They are pranksters.

They usually appear as intense balls of light called orbs that are neon blue or violet.

Ghosts favor night due to the decrease in daytime energy use.

Ghosts may appear as mists or vapors.

A hooded black smoky figure is a dark entity and you should be careful around them. They usually appear at the foot of beds.

Some alleged hauntings are actually a "residue," which is a past event that replays itself over and over.

Certain places are portals or vortexes where ghosts transport themselves.

Hauntings are most intense around children entering puberty, as kids this age are emitting immense amounts of energy.

Ghosts can read your thoughts.

Ghosts retain all the memories and emotions of their lives.

Sometimes ghosts are trapped and need to be released. Let them know they can move on.

Noisy, troublesome ghosts are known as poltergeists.

Ghosts tend to be very temperamental.

If a spirit was a jerk while living, they will probably still be a jerk while a ghost.

Ghosts hang out in cliques with other ghosts.

Ghosts make friends with other ghosts from different eras.

If you hear a strange whisper in your ear when sleeping, it is probably a ghost.

Ghosts do not sleep.

Ghosts like to climb up and down stairs at night.

Most ghosts can't or won't hurt you.

Animals can see or sense spirits, that's why you often see them just staring intensely at what appears to be nothing.

If you are being haunted, if you simply ask them to leave, they will. Say something like "I know you are here but you are scaring me please leave."

When a ghost enters a room, the room usually gets cold.

Animal ghosts exist and have been sighted.

Ghosts who lived hundreds of years ago keep up with the trends.

Children perceive ghosts as imaginary friends.

How to enjoy life

In The Magic of Starting Small, I made the point that it is your days that define your life. In this article, I want to challenge the common perception that it is only possible to enjoy your leisure time. In particular, this article is targeted at the professional stuck in the 9 to 5 grind who longs for the weekend and, in the process, has given up on trying to find pleasure in the ordinary experiences we have every day.

1. Appreciate Beauty. Each day we come across beauty in a number of shapes and forms. It’s a shame, then, that many people have become so accustomed to this beauty that it largely goes unappreciated. I suggest looking again at the people, plants, gadgets, and buildings (to name but a few examples) around you and taking a moment to appreciate what makes them so special.

2. Connect With Nature. Nature is an amazing healer for the stresses and strains of modern life. Eating lunch in the park, attending to a vegetable garden in your backyard, or watching the sunset are just a few simple ideas for how you can enjoy the outdoors on a daily basis.

3. Laugh. E. E. Cummings once said “the most wasted of all days is one without laughter.” How very true. Never be too busy to laugh, or too serious to smile. Instead, surround yourself with fun people and don’t get caught up in your own sense of importance.

4. Have Simple Pleasures. A good cup of coffee when I first wake. Time spent playing with my 8 month old son. Cooking a nice meal in the evening. These may not seem terribly exciting, but they are some of the simple pleasures I enjoy in life. If you slow down for just a moment and take the time to appreciate these ordinary events, life becomes instantly more enjoyable.

5. Connect With People. In so many ways, it is our relationships with people that give us the most happiness in life. Perhaps, then, the best way to enjoy your work more is not to get a raise or a promotion, but rather to build rewarding relationships with your co-workers.

6. Learn. There is a strong link between learning and happiness. Given this, there is no excuse not to be stimulating your brain and learning something new each day. My favorite way to find time for learning is to make the most of the commute to and from work. Audiobooks and podcasts are great for this purpose.

7. Rethink Your Mornings and Evenings. Are the mornings a mad rush for you to get out the door? Do you switch off the TV at night and go straight to bed? I have personally experienced the profound benefits of establishing a routine in the morning and evening. For example, in the morning you may choose to wake an hour earlier and spend the time working on yourself, whether it be reading, writing or exercising. In the evening, consider spending some time just before bed reviewing your day or in meditation.

8. Celebrate Your Successes. During a normal day we are sure to have some minor successes. Perhaps you have successfully dealt with a difficult customer, made a sale, or received a nice compliment for your work. These aren’t events worth throwing a party for, but why not take a moment to celebrate your success? Share the experience with someone else, reward yourself with a nice lunch, or just give yourself a mental pat on the back.